Wedding Stresses And How To Tackle Them
14th June 2017
Let’s be real here – weddings are stressful aren’t they? They are! It’s the biggest party you’ll ever throw in front of all the people you hold dear and the bill in itself is enough to give you palpitations. So many guests, suppliers, wants and needs to juggle – you just want to sink into a nice hot bath and melt it all away. Fear, not my dear! we and the Internet at large are here to help you tackle the most heart-pounding moments so you can enjoy the wedding process as much as possible. Here are some top wedding stresses and how you can face them head on!
Guest list Do’s and Don’ts
So your Maid of Honour has just started dating, but not really dating, just sort of dating? They’re not really sure how to define it yet, just taking it slowly, she doesn’t really know if she likes him and… ARGGHHH! Such bad timing! You are just drawing up your guest list and you don’t really want this fling, you’ve never met, present for the biggest moment of your life so far. I say, only invite him if she won’t know anyone else there, otherwise kindly explain to her that due to budget and capacity he just didn’t make the cut. And this is just one scenario – we could write a whole article on guest lists alone (which we may do soon, stay tuned!). But for now, here are our top tips:
• Only invite people you have been sociable within the past year
• Don’t let your parents pressure you to invite family members you’ve never heard of
• Remember you can always invite people to your evening party
Maidzillas, Mumzillas, Groomzillas, Oh My!
Yup, it’s not just Bridezillas anymore – the past couple of decades have seen the zillanation (that’s an industry term) of grooms, mothers, bridesmaids and all sorts. Everyone thinks they are entitled to their say in everything and if you’re too passive with them, your wedding could end up a whole lot different than you wanted it and… it’s your big day! My advice would be to respect everyone’s opinion but, let your mothers and bridesmaids know that you and your hubby-to-be appreciate their assistance and you get the deciding vote.
Groomzillas are a special case and quite difficult to spot. My advice on this is to arm yourself with information. Here is a brilliant article on how bad things can get. http://www.brides.com/blogs/aisle-say/2014/05/funny-groomzilla-stories.html
rsvp Damn it!
You took all the effort to stamp every RSVP card and put a big bold date to hand them back by but only half were returned by the deadline! Not to worry, this is quite normal and try not to take it too personally. For a lot of people it will have just slipped their minds. Here at Fabulous Together, we advise creating a spreadsheet with all of your guest’s names on it and their contact details so you can get chasing when you need to. This spreadsheet will also make things like marking special dietary requirements and other needs a whole lot easier.
Not going to lie to you here, table plans are stressful. The process is gruelling and dizzying but when it all clicks together it feels great. My advice here would be to get help! Your hubby, however, involved or not he is in the wedding, is the best person to help you here as he’ll best be able to advise you on the characters of his laddish friends and frail aunts. At Fabulous Together we use software to map out table plans but I would personally recommend doing this by hand first. Make it more fun by drawing out the number of tables you have on a large piece of card and sticking labelled colour paper on representing each guest. That way you can move them around as much as you want to. Clear the evening, bottle of wine, toil through and you’ll be done in no time.
On the other hand, you can join the ‘resistance’ and scrap the seating plan altogether! It’s your wedding, why not?
Rain on your parade
So far all of the stresses I’ve mentioned have been before the big day but on the day, I don’t know about you, my biggest stress would be rain! Our ‘green, green grass of home’ can only be achieved with lots of rain and particularly in Manchester, you could wake up to clear blue skies and preparing to set up canapés outside and then the downpour begins, ruining your hair one drop at a time. (Sigh)
My advice here would be to buy some plastic brollies in bulk (on eBay they are ten-a-penny) if you’re marrying in a particularly wet month and are planning to have some events outside like fireworks. Guests will appreciate the thought. Also get some fancy umbrellas for you and your hubby-to-be as they can make for some great photos! Oh and hairspray…lots and lots of hairspray!
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